Gay Sardar

"That's so gay,"I have heard this sentence many times before, but quite a lot in the last week which has been extremely good. The interesting thing is the way it is being used in conversational English.
Many youngsters in the US use one of the most controversial words, Gay, as noun or an adjective but in different way. I noticed some of these guys using it as frequently as the other two most spoken words in US-Thank you and Fuck you. I think, as gays get more rights, probably, the use of the word gay would rank higher.
The very sights of two guys, who may be brothers, sleeping together activate the gay area of this young guy's brain. I am sure he would barely skip the chance to make some comment using the word 'gay.' As far as I know, the word gay as noun also means happiness. I came across an interesting use of it as an adjective. For example, one of my friends (whom I know from the last 7 days) was taking to his friend on phone. He was quite upset with him over some matter and said him that he (his friend) was having 'gay attitude.' It seems anything which sounds weird is characterized as gay.

Similarly, the word 'Sardar' is used in Indian community to describe a particular behavior. Actually, sardar is the noun used for Sikh males, who are considered as brave persons. However, our GenNext has gone a little far and with time the word sardar now has different meanings in conversational language. It has been dragged outside the boundaries of oxford and Cambridge. Nowadays, it is used to describe any silly act or stupid person. It is said that the highest population of sardars is found in jokes rather than their home land Punjab. Being a sardar I have learnt how to laugh at myself. For non-Punjabis the very introduction of any joke with sardar in it makes them laugh out loud. Any failed act may prove you to be a sardar. Any fickle joke means you are sardar. Making tea in pressure cooker means sardaron wale kaam. Always singing Punjabi songs in antakshri means hardcore sardar. In nutshell, any weird act can prove you to be a sardar or a relative of sardar.
So, what is common between a sardar in India and a gay? Well, sardar's fought against oppression, for freedom of religion and some other kinds of freedoms too. They came into existence from within the society and they created their own space by struggle and sacrifice. Similarly, in the 21 century, gays are also trying to create their space in the society. They are also fighting for their gay genes to be acceptable in the world. Now the point is that even if they get their constitutional rights in next 10-15 years, the word gay won't be used in its actual meaning. Like sardar, it will be used to describe any weird act in the world which has not been done before. Few more years then the dumbest thing would be described by the word 'Gay Sardar' which will not one bring a smile on others face but remind us that they have always contributed to the society.

What is Arranged-Love Marriage?

In India, in general if you are a girl between 20-25yrs with a college degree,then it is the ripe age to get married,or in case, you are modern (making use of your college degree, I mean earning) then you can buy more time. Similarly for guys, but they have to have some job along with above things.
Traditionally, before any marriage,the parents from both sides would inquire about each other's families through middle man and then sign the deal. There would be very little scope for the guy and the gal to know about each other. That's what is called arranged marriage. You know about your partner after you are married. I know many successful marriages happened this way.
But now at 24, it's my turn, I didn't realize it untill one of my friends got her Mr. Right though a Indian matrimonial websites. I was aware of such sites before, but I never showed interest in understanding their work until a close friend of mine found her finance.
Usually, it would be appalling to some of you, who believe in love or love at first sight. But thinking logically, I found that the probability of finding your love in the young section, between 20yrs -29yrs, of 3billion women population is very bleak. For an open minded Indian (that the term if you are peso-modern/educated)to find a his/her match in his/her caste becomes next to impossible.I came up with a number,200, that the number of girls I interacted in my life who were of same age as I was. Assume 10,000 gals to be the sample space of my true love, the p=.02 which also means that I need to get in touch with rest 9800 women before I turn 30.
It is not about defending or refuting anything about arranged marriage or love marriage but trying to understand how to make the best decision which may not be the right decision.
One of the things I found is that some open-minded parents are giving some space to their children in deciding their life partners. Based on the above calculated probability, it is very difficult for an average Indian guy to find a date in a country where 'SEX' is a taboo(I am not taking about you, who has girlfriend/boyfriend). Some may disagree with it but there is a general mentality in Indian males that a girlfriend can not be a wife.

The new concept is now ARRANGE LOVE. Parents, who have already made a decision on the girl,introduce their son to her in informal ways that neither the gal nor the boy knows about the plan. They interact for some time (months or years) and once they become comfortable with each other, the talk of marriage pops up on the dinner table.
The guy, who is more comfortable with someone he knows, has more probability of choosing her than the unknown ones.

So, this is how arranged love marriage works.

Why? Because we are a developing nation and we are also developing our culture.

Who is doing wrong?

The Obama administration has put strict restrictions on hiring international students by the companies who have received any amount of the bailout money that was issued in order to boost the country’s economy by giving more jobs to American citizens. Not only that, he has enacted a legislation under which any company who ships its jobs overseas won’t get some of the tax benefits offered by his new policies. They call it the ‘Recovery’; however, some call it ‘Protectionism.’
In the 70’s, when Indira Gandhi, India’s prime minister, visited the US, she was called an ‘old witch’ by the US president, Richard Nixon. It was mainly because she was supporting the independence struggle in East Pakistan, which the US didn’t want to happen. But, there were some other reasons as well, like her decision to send American firms away from doing business in India which had a deep negative impact on India’s growth for the next 20 years. At that time, the Us president was right to some extend as Mrs. Gandhi was following protectionism ,even though, some Indian economists also warned her of the dire consequences. The consequences were so dire that by late 80’s the country had to mortgage its gold to receive loan from World Bank.
In 1991, the prime minister of India had to call an economist named Manmohan Singh to hold the Finance Ministry. That moment was the cornerstone in the history of the nation; it achieved 8-9% economic growth from measly 3%.The fast growth gave India the world recognition it was longing for. Actually, the very important thing he did was the removal of many obstacles for Foreign Direct Investment (FDI) and encouraged privatization. Mainly, he scraped the protectionist polices the country was following for years. Presently, he is the prime minister of the nation.
Recently, In the G20 meeting in Britain, Manmohan Singh urged the US president not to isolate the country by some of the president’s aggressive protectionist policies. The US is going on the same route as India was 28 years ago. Dr. Singh emphasized that more global co-operation is the only key to recover from this economic recession. Global cooperation is present in the world today, for example, we know how US is dependent on Chinese manufacturing industries, and similarly, many countries are dependent on US for high-tech technologies.
In this global village, it is not hard to understand how much our lives are connected to each other across oceans. Thus, the more protectionism we adopt, the less the cooperation. Hence, the more we slide into the abyss of this crisis.

India:Diversity is the Unity

A country whose two-thirds population is illiterate, has more than five hundred languages, twenty seven states, most having a different ethnicity, different cultures from N-to-S and from E-to-W, different food habits, and most importantly, more than eight religions got its independence in 1947.Yes, I am talking about India, the world’s largest democracy.

After India got independence from Britain, it was believed by many that it would soon disintegrate into different sections. For example, the foreign policy of Eisenhower’s government in US reflected this notion; for a while they were waiting for the disintegration to happen, before finally acknowledging India as a nation.

Last month, India held general elections for its 15^th parliament, 62 years after its independence. Again, the diversity of the nation was being considered to be an obstacle in its unity. India is a multiparty democracy, where Congress leads the UPA and BJP leads the NDA. The UPA is considered to be a secular coalition, where NDA is a Hindu right wing coalition, though it is alienating itself away from that sticker.

For the last 10 years, it has been observed that small regional parties in both the coalitions are getting more bargaining power. Earlier, their demands were only local, so the government at the center had to succumb to their demands for local issues for the sake of their support at the center. However, in the last 4 years they were threatening the coalition on some foreign issues and big reforms, which they were cautions of for no big reason. Nonetheless, Manmohan Singh, India’s prime minister of the UPA, led the nation to a 9 percent growth rate during the first 4 years of his governance. In contrast, some argue that the more share of regional parties in the government is need to represent the diversity of the nation.

But recent elections results showed that history has repeated itself but in different context. The congress party received more than 37% of the seats and it needs just 29% to form a government. This big share of the congress in the government means that all the hopes of the regional parties are thrashed by the people of India, thus clearing the way for big reforms without much hullabaloo in the parliament. The impact of this victory can be understood by the fact that the National Stock Exchange jumped 15% in 30 seconds when this news broke out. The trading had to be halted for next 2 hours.

Some experts say that what India would have achieved in next fifteen years is equivalent to what it now would achieve in the next five years. A nation where nearly half of the people can’t speak the national language properly has shown that there is something common that binds every person from North to South and from East to West. India has shown the world again that its diversity is its unity.

Our First Telephone

India is the second fastest growing country in the world. According to IMF, India will be the second largest economy on this planet by the mid of this century. No doubt, the GenNext will enjoy all the privileges that now west do. Though, it will be interesting to see how the contemporary generation will react to the paradigm shift in their lifestyle. However, till today, they have been adaptive to the drastic change in the last two decades. For example, the emergence of telephone in our country has played a big role in defining new India, that some call, ‘Shining India’.

There was time when if you had applied for a telephone (Landline); you would have to wait for long time to get a connection. I mean about 5-10 years and this is not long before, just 15 years back. I remember when my dad had applied for a telephone connection in around mid 97. At that time, I had no idea what it could possibly do except talking. I had never dialed a number before. My dad 1000 miles away from us used to communicate with us through postal letters, which means 10-15 days.
My uncle was the first person in our village who got a connection after waiting 8 years, in 1999. It was a remarkable achievement by the villagers. Everyone was so excited. That was the time I realized for the first time that telephone could be a necessity. It was like the whole world is connected to the village. His number became the public number which could be given to your friends and relatives but only for making important calls. Nevertheless, he was quite happy with this recognition. It was not long when he realized that it was getting a headache with 4-5 messages to be delivered everyday.

I have never bought a lottery ticket, but it was no less than winning a lottery when we got our own telephone number. It was exhilarating, like we have a new born baby. I was desperate to hear the ring. And there it goes! , ring ring! Our first call, my dad picked the phone, it was from the telephone department congratulating us on our new connection. The whole next week was like a big event.
That was my first Telephone.

But, then happened the unfortunate event, it stopped working, which they were calling 'it is Dead.’ For a day or two, I literally thought, it was dead and we have to again wait for next 8 years. My dad said he had made a complaint and they would soon fix it. It was like you have come alive, through a deadly disease. The next whole month was gloomy, waiting for the lineman every day. He was at the lowest rank in the telecom department. Nonetheless, the most respected person as if he was a very high government official. Every time he would visit he was offered tea and sweets, much respected job.

Let's take a jump to the present. Now, every second person in the village is having a Mobile phone, forget about a landline telephone. If you have 20 bucks, you can get a mobile handset with lifetime connection, all this in 10 minutes of procedure, compare it with 8 years we had waited. How does this sound to you? Well, it is not surprising to me, because I have seen the transition and expect more revolutionary developments to come in future. Though, the amusing fact is that after a surge in the telephone connection with around 35 connections, in the village, within 6 years, 1997-2003, it has gone back to its solitary period with just two connections at present.

Moreover, my grandma, who doesn't even know 'E' of English uses a Nokia handset. Astonishingly, she can make a call, though, she can’t count. But, this is just the trailer of the movie that we are going to see in next 30 years. But for me, I still love the ringing of my mobile the same way I used to do with my first telephone. However, I miss the excitement of the first ring. Anyways, the world relies on change and who knows even the mobile phones would be obsolete some time.

What is Education all about?

I still remember the day,when one of our teachers asked each one of
us, what u want to be in your life. I was in 5th standard. Everyone
was coming up with 'Doctor' or 'Engineer'.I wanted to say something different. At first, I thought pilot, but just then somebody else said,
'Pilot mam'.' damn it!, I said to myself. Recently, I had watched a
program on Discovery about some scientific discovery and then
came the idea to my mind. It was my turn. " I want to be a
scientist mam," I said. " Why do you want to be a scientist?"
she asked ,surprisingly. Wait a second, can I have one more
chance, I asked myself.

Well, it is hard for a 11 year old child to figure out what he or
she wants to be in life. But , that is the age when the important
path of your life is decided upon. Unfortunately, our education
system is not designed for such a decision making. I am a victim
of CBSE or NCERT, whatever you say, they are both sisters.
The exams are based on 'What' and 'How.' And the guy who
crams the last night, is the first in the class(It is the case
most of the time, I am not talking about you). The general
pattern is like the more you eat , the more you vomit the
next day and the more marks you get.

If I get 65% , I am an average guy. But if you get 95% ,
you are an intelligent. So, the very definition of intelligence
in based on how many marks you get or I should say cram.
The recent report of the Kendriya vidhayala (KVs) education
system has shown that when it comes to application questions,
you see a waterfall curve.

Lets take my example, the marks obtained by me (average guy ,70%)
in class 10 ,helped me to get into 11th with science(Non-medical) ,
after that nobody asked,how well I did in my last class. Then
came the semifinal, I mean,12th , again the poor guy scored
an average 70%. But I was happy this time,at least they(JEE/IIT/AIEEE)were treating me in the same manner as the guy with 95%,hurray!!. However,I got into a REC,doing things which
I didn't have any interest. But I had to do for a blue-collar job.

After four years of intense Engineering, I made it into an IT
company ,where they had an entrance exam based on 10th
level Maths and general English. No differential equations,
integrals, chemical compounds, Newton's Laws, nothing that
I had been reading for the whole of my life, is asked, other
than one alphabet of English language,'C.' If you know it ,
you are in.

Anyways,it sounds good getting 20K/month, sitting on a
bench(no work) and getting promotion ,sitting on a bench
again. Suddenly, the global market goes down.Guess what?
I got an email from the company" You are laid off." My first
reaction, 'WTF.' After taking some time to digest things,
I wondered, if I had found the answer to my teacher's
question(Why), I would have been doing something ,
which I would be interested in. I studied all the 'Whats'
and 'Hows' but forgot to study 'Whys', Which could have
decided my future, my career. The career , I could say,
yes, this is what I am and I always wanted to be.